Mothers and Daughters Working it Out

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1. Paula says

   May 11, 2012 at 7:47 pm

   This article was really interesting and good Linda, thank you for posting the link. It’s taken me years to get past anything my mother says to me. I am working lately on, not letting ANYONE’S comments bother me. I am trying to put the Lord first ( But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Matt 6:33), and thinking about Him instead of what others are saying to me. Sometimes, people are upset with things that have nothing to do with us but they take it out on us (the article comments on this). We “let them” make us feel bad, but “no one can make you feel bad without your permission” (Eleanor Roosevelt). Easy to say, hard to believe and carry out. We have just finished Ephesians in my bible study group, and it talks about putting on the full armor of God—“so we can be strong in the Lord and His mighty power.” Eph. 6:10. Sometimes, I think we need to feel built up before we get together with our mothers or anyone else who puts us down—we need to boost our self esteem before standing there hearing criticism or anything else that might come at us. For me, feeling good means making time for myself and having breaks and downtime and many times, time alone with God—all of which would be good things to do before getting “in the ring” with someone. Maybe after we build ourselves up, we wont even feel as attacked when not so helpful comments come our way, maybe they can just bounce off us like water off a duck’s back. Let’s remember this coming Mother’s Day too, how hard it IS to be a mother, and maybe also put ourselves in our own mother’s shoes—as the article commented, sometimes, our mothers want more attention from us and do not know how to ask—maybe someday, our little ones will be older and WE will be the ones wanting more attention and not remembering how hard it was and how much time it takes to raise them up, and we will be in the same position, not knowing how to ask for time from our loved little-now-grown-ones. It might pay for us to think about this, where WE will be in 20 years, as we “deal” with our own mothers’ comments. Can we think kindly and “walk a mile in their shoes”, shoes that we ourselves will fill in not as short a time as you think into the future? Something to think about for sure!!!
   Happy Mother’s Day to anyone and everyone reading this, for all the mothers who already are, and the ones who will be 🙂

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